as far as i can understand this is the problem.
in your client you got 3 item files
DnItems.wil---- L-DnItems.wil for Ledu
Items.wil---- L-Items.wil for Ledu
StateItems.wil---- L-StateItems.wil for Ledu
for example if you use the looks say bdslayer is number 20 in your itemsfile
then the bdslayer needs to be in all 3 files at number 20
so like you said if you have a bdslayer in bag and put it on and it looks differant in your playerscreen then in your bag or on the ground. it meens the item pic aint at the same spot as the other itemfiles so make sure all files have the same pics at the same spots
hope this will help you understand whats wrong if not the easyest thing to do i think would be getting new item files
or if you've been messing with the files with making new items then use the backup/original files
as for the woodensword on your char thats your db you need to change the shape for that